In modern time, many women no longer wants to be married; many, even after being married, do not want to become a mother.
However, life has her own wisdom.
So many women unwillingly become married and become a mother.
However, their notions about what marriage and family should be like become their major obstacles for truly playing their role as mothers.
Consequently, children suffer from the Mother’s wrong behaviors and the mistakes of marriage and family start to carry on in a family.
Thus, modern time, it is hard to find a healthy family that is living in harmony.
The problem behind these phenomena is the wrong understanding of what LOVE is.
Many women consider love to be receiving gifts, being taken good care of, and being the center of attentions of her man.
Such a desire for “love” even drives a woman to become promiscuous, which again, has been justified by modern time with a fashionable name: free love.
When such a woman is forced by life to become a mother, her desire for “love” continues to drive her to put family life aside, and put her own interest before her own children.
She then faces the danger of committing some most fatal mistakes in her life, such as having affairs and aborting her child.
I am from Mainland China, where traditional values about marriage and family have been totally wiped out during the Culture Revolution by the Chinese Communist Party (CCP, see Nine Commentaries of Communist Party by the Epoch Times).
I was born at the start of the Culture Revolution, by a mother who was a very devoted CCP member. In her eyes, in order to be a good CCP member, she no longer had the time for a second child. So when she learned of her pregnancy, she decided to have an abortion. But she did not succeed in doing so due to some medical conditions. I was therefore saved and was born on the Valentine’s Day.
My mother soon sent me away to my grandparents’ house to be raised. So, from a young age, I was deprived of Mother’s love and care, and was alone in my heart and soul.
The search for love became the center of my life.
Even as a young child, I was longing for unconditional love and created all types of love stories in my mind and tried to act them out in my daily life.
When I became a young lady, my longing for love became very painful. I once projected all of the wonder of Love that I could imagine onto a young man, and allowed myself to be lost in it.
One day, when I was walking on the street, suddenly, I saw the young man’s image in everyone on the street.
From that experience, I suddenly realized that true love for one person can be transformed into the love for all beings.
Later, when I woke up from the projection of love, I felt deep pain and disappointment in my heart.
The unconditional love I was seeking is too beautiful for a human being to have.
As I walked along my life, many times I projected that love onto a man and then watched how real life breaks that projection into pieces.
Finally, I was trapped in a relationship of fate, and started to lock myself away from the pain of the emotional dessert that my heart was experiencing, through devoting myself to work.
That pain did not go away when I became very successful.
That pain did not go away when I became the mother of a most beautiful child.
That pain eventually transformed into physical symptoms that made me unable to continue the kind of lifestyle I was having.
One day, I was visited by an unexpected spiritual experience.
From that experience, for the first time, I felt the most wonderful LOVE.
That LOVE is not from a human being, and is truly unconditional.
For the first time, my heart finds a home and my soul feels peace.
That experience released me from the desperate search for LOVE.
In the Spring of 2000, I was guided to learn the ancient mind-body practice, Falun Dafa.
Since then, again and again, my face has been covered by tears of joy, when my heart feels the true LOVE.
As I continue to practice, my heart is filled with pure LOVE for all beings.
I now know that this LOVE is called Compassion.
Scientists recently found that our entire universe is permeated with a substance that is invisible but most powerful.
They call such a substance Dark Matter, since it is invisible.
I think it is Compassion, the LOVE of GOD.
On this year’s Valentine’s Day, my 40 birthday, I call for the celebration of Compassion and hope more and more people will be connected with Compassion, instead of being trapped by human love based upon selfishness.
January 31, 2007